Have you ever heard the saying that you need to love yourself before you love someone else? It’s not just a corny mantra but an important life lesson that most will take years to learn. Those people who love themselves are less likely to settle for anything beneath their high standards, and that includes friends, work and romantic relationships. You ensure that others treat you with a level of respect because you don’t tolerate anything less. When people see that you respect and love yourself, they are more likely to treat you the way you expect to be treated. Still, loving yourself isn’t something everyone finds easy, but there are things you can do to ensure you are one step closer to this goal than you were yesterday.
Don’t Compare Yourself to Others
When we’re young, we start to compare ourselves to others. It might start by comparing our abilities – whether we are the fastest runner or the smartest kid in class – and we move on to comparing our looks by the time we are teenagers. As humans, we tend to examine ourselves more harshly than we might others, so we end up with long lists of things we don’t like about ourselves. These sorts of behaviors aren’t healthy or helpful – after all, they are usually made up of things we can’t control – so the best thing you can do for yourself is to stop these behaviors altogether. While you’re at it, stop comparing yourself to celebrities and models who are not realistic representations of what normal people look like anyways.
Surround yourself with people who make you feel good about yourself and those who will support you when you need them. If you have a friend who is always putting you down, it’s hard not to fall into those patterns yourself, so be picky about who you include in your life and it will pay off further down the line. Remember, you need to be the kind of person you want to be friends with, so make sure that you treat others with kindness too and you’ll find that people will automatically want to be around you more.
Tell Yourself You Deserve Love
Everyone deserves love, but you might not always feel that way, especially when you start this process. Tell yourself that you deserve love anyway. You might not feel it right now, but the words you speak will become your reality so be sure to speak them to your advantage.
Finding the right partner – whether it’s in a friend or a romantic liaison – can be tough but loving yourself is the best possible place to start. By focusing on caring for and loving yourself, you’ll be learning all the skills you need to love that special person when they come into your life. Most importantly, you’ll likely find that you are a happier and healthier version of yourself and when your light shines like this from within, you will likely find that people are more attracted to you than ever before.